from manlessdogless:
1. i never friended him on fb because i didn't want to have to unfriend him if some shit like this happened. i also never saved his number in my phone for the same reason. this is how i am with guys now. sad but true. i don't "save" them anywhere b/c i feel, unfortunately, that they are bound to disappear.
2. i don't think he's a bad person. at all. in fact, i think he's a good person (generally speaking). so what do i say? seriously. what would i say? how dare you act like you like me and have fun with me and make me laugh and then not call? i sound crazy...
3. how the fuck did you know he was a weed head? for real. how did you know that?! i'm pretty sure he smokes everyday.
dear md:
1)fine. i hate that this is your defense mechanism now. you are so wonderful... i have no idea why you have such sour luck. you are the real deal.
2)he may not be a BAD person... but hes careless with himself and his actions. he needs to understand YOUR perception of the situation and how let down you were. based on your expectations from HIS behavior.
3) i thought he was a stoner partially b/c you called him dopey... and also because he doesn't sound like a horrible dick (b/c he would have tried to fuck you when you spent the night)... AND that would be a reasonable explanation for why hes so completely god damn clueless. no excuse though. seriously, i smoke pot NEARLY everyday and i'm not a fucking clueless moron.
you don't spend time with people like that if you're not romantically interested...
and if you do... you need to be CLEAR that s not what you're thinking and understand
that circumstances like that (staying up all night talking, watching fire works under a blanket, spending the night)... that intimacy...can lead people to have those romantic feelings.
god. hes such a doofus.
your note doesn't have to be scathing or unkind... but can be firm and just let some things out. ..
and who cares if he thinks your crazy? hes on another planet.
let him take the fall for all your tears and strife.
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As someone who has been on the receiving end of the disappearing act many MANY times, I have to weigh in. My philosophy on such matters now is: Person In Question has made it clear that I am not worth his/her time, so s/he shouldn't be worth mine. If I am asked directly what's up or otherwise given the opportunity, I will be straightforward and say something along those lines, but otherwise I am not wasting my breath.
Signed,
I'd Rather Be Single And Somewhat Bitter Than Chase After Some Douche Who Can't Bother To Properly Request And Appreciate My Company
well said, chaia. thank you.
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